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To Teej or not to Teej ?

A year ago ( I guess hai!!) me and some of mine friends were walking around civil hospital from our java class and since that was the "dar khane din"( a day before teej);people were dancing and having delicious food on hospital premises .I too insisted to go and have a look once as i haven't seen any celebration before in any hospital premises but one of my friend denied saying that it doesn't belong to his culture neither he get the logic of celebrating teej though i tried to explain.It pinched me somehow as i have gone to seen many jatras with him.
 until I haven't left my home and came to Ktm I just used to know what was told to me about teej but now this festival overwhelms me with joy.
For a long decade I have been told that fasting could give a good husband for unmarried girls and could make a girl free from the sin ; a girl have done(according to them) by touching male members during her menstural days and so i was supposed to do fasting   from my early days while married women were supposed to fast for the long life of their husband as according to our holy book our goddess parvati did fasting on that day  and if this could happen why there are widow?? and what is the reason to fast for in the society where widow marriage is generally prohibited ??
But things get meaning on how we see them or interpret it ,right??
As i go through it again, I think parvati didn't fast to get a good husband but she fasted so that she could choose her husband by her own will.she fasted to protest her father's decision to marry Lord bishnu  and take power on her own to get shivaji as her husband since she was devoted towards shivaji .she fasted with devotion and love. so i think this festival symbolizes power that a women have within herself  and it symbolizes her courage to take sovereignty to act according to her will and to protest against anything that a woman doesn't will to do.
for me it's a day when I can meet with my siblings and cousins to talk , to dance , to share and collect more memories.but i dont believe in hard and fast rule of fasting without having a drop of water and without a bite of food.It could still go in a healthy way like you can have some fruits and juice so that noone becomes ill because of hunger or dehydration.I dislike the way of celebrating it from a month long and doing unnecessary expense as this is not how it is supposed to be celebrated.It should be celebrated with fun , creating beautiful memories.I think its just another beautiful way to express love towards our patner and I don't think that a women/girl is doing any sin during her periods.Actually these are the days when a girl actually becomes pure as she hold capability of motherhood.
I don't know whether fasting could give a good husband or not  but I definitely have got a plus way to express my love to that one special person in my life  as my mums and aunt do.may be fasting couldn't give long life but it could stabilize the belief that our loved ones are safe and i guess that belief can somehow work sometimes.

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Happy Teej flyers by me

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